Education in San Antonio

Letting your children make their own decisions can be incredibly difficult. When it comes to going off to college it’s downright impossible for some. However, this is the time to let go a little and be more of a silent partner than a ‘helicopter’ parent who hovers. If your child is a high school senior, he should be mature enough to think through some of the issues related to choosing a good college for himself. But, there are ways you can help, so read on:

1. Lend your support. Now isn’t the time to point out the pitfalls of various career paths if your child is expressing an interest in something you don’t think will be lucrative. Express interest in his interest and tell him that he can do anything if he sets his mind to it. He’ll find his own way, with you by his side to support him.

2. It is the time to be all ears. Usually, that means zipping your lips no matter how difficult it can be. For example, ask some provocative questions in order to encourage your child to think through some of his decisions. If he doesn’t answer right away, that’s okay, stay quiet and give him time to think about his future and what he’d like to see for himself.

3. Keep the high school connection strong. Here is where you help will likely be needed the most. There will be a lot of informative meetings about financial aid, application letters, etc. and your child will appreciate you keeping it all straight with him. You could make a big calendar with deadlines and dates for an easy glance for the whole family to know what is going on and when.

4. Become the cheerleader. You can show your enthusiasm (and love) for your child’s future by celebrating the successes and supporting him during the disappointments along the way. By all means, when there’s good news make a big deal of it. Keep in mind that one of the most important things he’ll need to take to that dorm with him is a healthy self esteem.

Parent involvement in college selection can be a special time for the entire family if it’s done correctly. Things like campus visits, financial aid applications and even being a sounding board when the student needs help in deciding which school best meets his needs are perfect opportunities to work together. Other than that, wait to be asked before offering too many opinions.

Marc Blair is an adjunct faculty member of a Boston area college. He is an advocate of online universities and online colleges offering career oriented graduate programs.